Every PM knows the feeling: you inherit a project with fuzzy goals, a “non-negotiable” deadline no one can explain, and a sponsor whose calendar is more elusive than a unicorn sighting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tools, dashboards, and frameworks matter. But according to Bent Flyvbjerg \u2013 one of the world’s top minds on project risk \u2013 poor communication and unrealistic planning are among the most common reasons projects spiral out of control (Flyvbjerg, 2022<\/a>). <\/p>\n\n\n\n Add to that our natural human tendencies \u2013 overconfidence, groupthink, and resistance to bad news \u2013 and it’s clear: you don’t just need a plan. You need an honest conversation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of working with various sponsors. These ten questions, shaped by real-life experience, can change the trajectory of your project \u2013 sometimes even your career. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You’ve seen the business case \u2013 but do you know its story? Was it sparked by a strategic pivot, a regulatory nudge, a customer crisis, or someone’s personal crusade? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Understanding true motivation helps you make informed decisions when the pressure is on. It also gives you insight into what success will feel like, not just what it looks like on a dashboard. Lean Six Sigma tells us to listen to the Voice of the Customer<\/em>. Here, it’s about tuning in to the Voice of the Sponsor<\/em>. Ask with genuine curiosity. You might uncover more than you expect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Forget vague answers like “improved efficiency.” Push for specifics. Is success a 15% reduction in processing time? Delivery of a stress loss model for XYZ? Surviving an audit to close out a long-standing ORI? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Precise success criteria help when you’re making trade-offs under pressure. Clarity reduces anxiety for everyone. SMART goals, OKRs, or any solid framework will help. As Stephen Covey wisely said, “Begin with the end in mind.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n Personal notes from the battlefield:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n The scope gets plenty of airtime, but are there exclusions? Not so much. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whether it’s “we’re not touching the mobile app” or “leave the sales workflows alone”, getting your sponsor to draw the line early can prevent massive misunderstandings later. Lean teaches the importance of tight problem statements. Here’s your chance to define what the problem isn’t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Some sponsors want biweekly updates in color-coded decks, while others want only the big stuff when it’s on fire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Don’t guess. Ask. This reveals not just their availability but also their decision-making style. Are they hands-on or trust-based delegators? It helps you shape your communication plan and your escalation strategy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n There’s what’s on the risk register and what keeps your sponsor up at night. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ask them directly. You might uncover hidden political dynamics, unresolved turf wars, or ghosts of failed initiatives past. Their answer gives you insight into the terrain you’re operating in. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Personal note:<\/strong> As a PM, you’re often a guest in the sponsor’s domain. They understand the people, the politics, and the backchannels. One sponsor once outlined people-related risks in such detail that I realized I needed a stakeholder strategy, not just a RAID log. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Every project has its “sacred cows”:<\/p>\n\n\n\n You need to know what’s non-negotiable, so you know where you can flex. Protecting what matters most will earn you credibility when things get bumpy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n There’s the official deadline \u2013 and then there’s the real one. Maybe it’s tied to a regulator, a board meeting, or an internal milestone that’s not on the project plan. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Find out what’s driving the date. Is it symbolic or contractual? Can it move, or is it carved in regulatory stone? Personal note:<\/strong> In banking, deadlines tied to regulatory requirements are sacred. But beware: not every stakeholder who claims regulatory urgency is being 100% truthful. Learn to distinguish posturing from policy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Your sponsor may be the primary decision-maker, but rarely the only one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ask who else influences the project. You’ll surface hidden stakeholders \u2013 and avoid getting blindsided when someone in Legal, IT, or Ops suddenly reshapes your entire delivery scope. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Crises are inevitable. What matters is how you handle them \u2013 and how your sponsor expects you to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Do they want early warning signs? Solutions? A heads-up before you escalate? Ask now, not during the storm. It’s also smart to clarify how much authority you have. Are you empowered to act, or expected to ask first? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Email, dashboards, Teams messages, face-to-face? Do they love detail or dread it? <\/p>\n\n\n\n There’s no universal answer here, but matching your sponsor’s communication style is one of the simplest ways to keep them engaged \u2013 and off your back. <\/p>\n\n\n\n A good PM delivers. A great PM connects. These ten questions aren’t just for project setup \u2013 they’re relationship-building tools. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Personal note:<\/strong> A strong sponsor relationship can help you achieve your goals and protect your mental health. Many senior leaders want honest partnerships. Cultivate them, and they’ll often last far beyond a single project. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lean Six Sigma keeps your processes clean, and behavioral insights keep your team engaged. But human-to-human dialogue \u2013 sometimes awkward, always real \u2013 transforms fragile plans into resilient outcomes. Ask early, ask with curiosity, and ask like someone who wants this to work. Projects don’t succeed because of plans. They succeed because people make them succeed \u2013 together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n1. “Why this project, and why now?”<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
2. “What does success really look like \u2013 for you?”<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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3. “What’s out of scope, no matter what?”<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
4. “How involved do you want to be?”<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
5. “What risks worry you the most?”<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
6. “What can’t we compromise on \u2013 under any circumstances?”<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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7. “What’s the real deadline \u2013 and what happens if we miss it?”<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
8. “Who else has a say in this project’s direction?”<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
9. “If something goes wrong, what do you expect from me?”<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
10. “What’s your preferred way to stay in touch?”<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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<\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\nConclusion: The right questions build the right partnership<\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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